Feb 14, 2023

 Feb 14, 2023

HAPPPPPPPPPPY VALENTINES DAY!!!!

     Now that THAT is out of the way lol.... Let's talk about relationships. I promised yesterday... ok I did not promise but I did say I would tell yall tomorrow so I am. :) 

     About the Dom thing. The hubby is also my Daddy Dom. We are also polyamorous. Please don't get that confused with polygamous. We are NOT that. We believe in multiple loves, NOT multiple marriages. I am bisexual and enjoy multiple partner sexual encounters. Always have. This is something Hubby and I discussed from the get-go before we were even dating. I am also domineering, but I am NOT Dominant. That is the husband's forte. So this is how Thelma ended up in the relationship. She also is bisexual. Now, let's make one thing very clear. My husband has a great deal of respect for me. He knows I also have a jealous streak at times. We also know that there are females that will try and get in that do not want me, but then there are guys who will try and get in that will NOT respect him. If either thing happens, they are OUT. All members that come in have to want and be part of my husband's and my relationship and understand he is the Dom. Which means everyone else is submissive. There is not another Dom in our lives unless he is training one like he was trained. 

     He has a natural instinct for being dominant. But it is not only about instinct. My husband, while in Europe, was in a relationship and trained by a Master with his slave in a BDSM relationship.  Learning and experiencing the lifestyle in a controlled setting with other people who are involved with the lifestyle. This gave my husband a foundation that is very different than what a virtual world wants to give. So the Doms (or so-called Daddy Doms) in the virtual world drives him batty! Bcs, most of them, are only looking for the name "Daddy," just like most girls are just looking for the name "baby girl." I get it that in a virtual world, you can be anything you want to be. But at least don't act like you know what your doing... 

     Now I went off on a wild tangent there... I am good with those. My brain will think 1 thing, then start thinking something else then it is all over the board. That's when you know I haven't taken my meds in a while. But it's late, so obviously, it's almost bedtime, which means not taking ADD meds lol. So on to the story. 

     There will be many stories about Thelma in the future, but for this one, it is simple. She had rules. All three times, she had rules. The first 2 times, she brought another female into the fold, got jealous, flipped out, and left. The first time, that female ended up staying with us for years. She is still with the family, just not in a submissive capacity anymore. This last time she found a real-life guy. Every time it happens is within 1 month of her signing her rules after begging for them. This last time she told me, "you should have said the relationship was closed if you didn't want me to look" ... O.o.
     Just BCS you can look doesn't mean you are supposed to go out and purposely look ... when I made that comment to her, she backed up and said, "well, I didn't purposely," but yet you told me you went on a Facebook dating app. How is that NOT purposely looking?  The best part of this whole thing. The first time, we paid to have her come visit us, and she bailed on it. We forgave her. The second time, she sent me a real-life promise ring, promising to do everything she could to not mess things up... two weeks later, BOOM. And this time, we were talking about visiting her when we traveled south during the summer. At least no money was involved. Even though she kept saying, "the ring still matters".

     Don't get me wrong. I don't hate her. I just want nothing to do with her. And now I need to put her and all her stuff in boxes. So every time I talk about things, they go into another box until she is completely boxed up. I wish her no ill-will and hope she finds what she is so desperately looking for out there. She just has to find someone else to give her advice that she can shoot down now though lolol.